Are you living for you?

people_living_life_to_the_fullest_640_97-640x393 (1).jpgWhen is the last time you sat and actually reflected on your life? When is the last time that you have given thought to whether or not you or actually doing those things that you’ve always wanted to do? Are you living the life that you’ve always dreamed about or are you living the life that someone else has imagined for you. At some point you have to start living for YOU. You have to start doing things simply because they make you happy, not just because they make someone else happy. You have to set personal goals because you want to accomplish them, not to impress other people. You have to start saying no to things that go against what you believe in or that you are just not interested in, without feeling that you owe anyone an explanation. At the end of your life will you be able to say I lived my life in a way that made me happy or will you have lived someone else’s life?

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You

Just incase no one has told you lately, you…. Yes you, you are beautiful, you are loveable, you are capable of doing anything you put your mind to and don’t ever forget that you matter. This world wouldn’t be what it is without you!

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Keep working!

When you are continuously working towards accomplishing your goals and reaching your dreams, you learn to say “when I” instead of “if I”…… Keep on pushing!  

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Aha!

Woke up this morning feeling so grateful for this past week. Sometimes our human tendencies cause us to get caught up in the moment when things don’t work out how we want them to, or our plans change and things are out of our control. My plan this week was to take advantage of being out of the city and not do anything work related. I planned on going to the gym everyday, wandering around downtown, catching up with some people I haven’t spoken to in a while, and sitting in a Starbucks somewhere drinking a latte. Real Laguna Beach type stuff. My reality though was sleeping ALOT, (normal nights I sleep about 5 hours max) watching tons of movies, meditating, a lot of much needed quiet time by myself, quality time with people who make me smile, a tiny bit of work related stuff, some light reading, a runny nose, nasty weather and a good amount of writing. 

It turns out that was exactly what I needed. Sometime life knows what we need more than we do, and you just kinda have to learn to just go with it. Sometimes you end up around people who teach you things about yourself by just watching and listening to them. Then sometimes you have those aha moments where you realize the things and changes you need to make in your life to allow for growth. For that I am grateful. 

This morning the weather was much better, my runny nose had cleared up and I felt full of energy and ready for the world. For the first time this week I understood why I am exactly where I need to be right now. Sometimes when the noise of life gets so loud in our heads we forget to sit still, shut up, focus and just pay attention to the lesson it is trying to teach us so we can experience that full growth.
Thanks life, I’m listening again.
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How do you see your glass?

Sometimes it feels like we live in a world that majority of the time sees the glass half empty instead of half full. That’s exhausting! Today make a choice to see your glass half full. Make a conscious decision that whatever this day throws at you, (the good, the bad and the ugly) you will take it head on and see it as a challenge or obstacle that you will get over and not as a road block; decide that you will focus on the good things happening and not dwell on the bad. Continue to do that again and again. YOU and only YOU can make your life the best it can possibly be. 

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Smiles and Blessings

My happiness is defined by the number of times I smile in a day. Those smiles are brought on by thinking about the amazing people who are in my life, (family, friends, loved ones), the blessings that fill each day, and knowing that I have the ability to be not only a blessing to someone else, but their reason to smile as well.

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My black is beautiful 

I have learned that my blackness is a privilege and a blessing. I have grown to understand that not everyone would be able to handle all that goes along with having this beautiful skin. I am wonderfully and beautifully made this way because my creator knew that I would be strong enough to handle the good, the bad and all the ugly that comes along with it; and I will continue to work hard so that other men and women who look like me understand the same. Being black/brown is a blessing not a curse.

-Philip D James-

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