My black is beautiful 

I have learned that my blackness is a privilege and a blessing. I have grown to understand that not everyone would be able to handle all that goes along with having this beautiful skin. I am wonderfully and beautifully made this way because my creator knew that I would be strong enough to handle the good, the bad and all the ugly that comes along with it; and I will continue to work hard so that other men and women who look like me understand the same. Being black/brown is a blessing not a curse.

-Philip D James-

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Because I’m Happy…..-

 Have you thought lately  about what  makes you happy? Have you thought about what motivates you to get out of bed in the morning and look forward to the day ahead? Not about what you think the people in your life want to see or what they expect from you, but what truly deep down inside makes you smile.

I spoke to someone recently who said to me, “I don’t think I know who I am anymore.” My response, “I disagree, I believe that you know exactly who you are. You just have to get comfortable with who you are again and allow that to be the person you give, show or present to the world; and take care of that person (yourself).”  I feel like as I get older and more and more people reach out to me for advice on all kinds of things that they are struggling with, there seems to be one common denominator as to why (in my opinion) they are struggling. People have forgotten what makes them happy. We get older, we start families that we focus on taking care of, we jump into careers that we allow to consume our lives, we shift our attention to making sure that we are making enough money so that we can be comfortable when we retire, we turn into the people who we think our employers or our co-workers or our spouses want to see, but along the way there we lose or forget who we are. We forget about that person from high school or college who woke up in the morning after a late night of fun with friends and still managed to take care of what needed to be taken care of. Yes we grow up, and yes people change but that doesn’t have to mean that you can no longer have fun or be a more responsible version of that person that you once were. That also doesn’t mean that you have to lose the things that once made you YOU. Is it probable that the way you go about having fun or doing things that you enjoy may change a little, absolutely! But, in order for us to be the best version of ourselves and to be able to best take care of whatever responsibilities we may have, we have to remember how to take care of ourselves.

Self care is one of the most important things that anyone can do to take steps towards becoming the top notch version of who they are. For some people that might be setting time aside each day or week to write, for some people that might be setting that time aside to work on art or some other craft. Then for other people that might mean taking time out each week or month to get together with a group of friends or family and  for some it might be using that time for yoga, meditation or maybe even a spa day. Whatever the case, you have to figure out which of those things allow you have some fun (however you define that). Which of these allow you to forget about your mundane daily lives. Get back to doing those things that remind you of what it means to just be HAPPY!


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Tunnel Vision 

  1. I have a hard time entertaining people who knowingly or unknowingly feel the need to constantly point out negatives. I get it, trust me! I notice too, we allll do, but that’s not what I’m focused on. You can’t grow or progress in life if your stuck on all of and only the bad. God knows it’s hard when you have people always reminding you of the bad but never talking about the good. There will always be bad things that happen and I acknowledge that too, but let’s put a larger spotlight on the good in this world and let that be what we’re talking about. Let those things be the catalyst for change. We have to figure out how spin those conversations. Today make a conscious decision to only highlight the positives that are happening around you. Do that more and more each day and I promise your life will start to change. “If you’re not a part of the solution, you’re a part of the problem.” It starts with you.
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Being Black means Everything


While attending an HBCU I have gained a broader and intensified meaning to what my blackness means to me. Nigga, Negro, thug, or whatever society is using to distinguish black people is all slurs that have been used to belittle the black race at some point of time. The terms don’t speak on strong we are as a people. Blacks have been treated like dirt since the day our ancestors were forced to touch American soil, but we have come a long ways as a race. From no freedom at all to becoming some of the most powerful people in the United States.

Furthermore, the African American ethnicity is the most unyielding ethnicity of all, in my eyes. Some of the most prominent and influential people in the world are from African American decent. President Barack Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Jay Z, And Colin Powell are just a few people who…

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On niggas and black boys

The Darker the Berry

Racism in sports has been the topic du jour for a few weeks now, what with Donald Sterling’s remarks chastising his girlfriend (who has since been downgraded to a friend, at least in this CNN article) for hanging out with Magic Johnson and with the P.K. Subban vs. Bruin fans/Twitter trolls situation from a two weeks ago.

I’m not going to touch on Sterling’s comments, because he’s an idiot and I don’t feel the need to expand on that statement.

But I do want to mention this blog post, written by radio announcer Isabelle Racicot in the wake of those remarks. It’s a touching account of what happened when her 7-year-old son asked her whether he was a “nigga” too.

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EWB (Existing While Black)

Glad to know I’m not the only one who feels this way.

Class And Trash Show

Bonjour tous les mondes!

It’s snowing in Boston for what had to be the 100th time this winter. I’m so sick of it

But that’s not why I am here to talk to you all. If you’ve been following the news, you know another killer has gotten away with the murder of a young black male.

I can’t even begin to express my frustration with this case and those like it. To be honest, I’ve always tried to keep my opinion to myself because I’ve been at a predominantly white university or job. I don’t want to come across as the angry Black man. That is not a good look professionally, even when I’m completely valid in my feelings.

But that’s just it.


I’m completely over having to teach my niece and nephew that there is a full set of rules they have to…

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Beautiful Life

Just wanted to share this beautiful experience I had the other night. I decided to get out of the house for a while and enjoy the sunset at Astoria Park near my apartment. I realized that sometimes we take a lot of things for granted. Not anymore for me! I truly live a beautifully blessed life.


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